What does it take for you to consider someone a friend? Since re-invigorating my social life, I frequently consider this question.
About 15 years ago, I let a stranger sit at my table, a friendly girl from LA. This was during a girls’ getaway to Las Vegas with my best friend, Cin. We had 2 extra seats and an attentive barkeeper, so we were feeling good and happy to help. About 30 minutes later the LA girl welcomed 4 others to our table and as she began to invite her friends to join us, she says: “Hey, sit with me and my friends,” then she turns to me and says, “what’re your names?” Cin and I smiled at each other, and immediately–I knew we would be covering this in the play-by-play the next morning. The next morning we discussed the idea that this girl introduced us as her friends and didn’t even know our names was a little odd.
The only friendships I experienced until then were deep, close friendships. Not a “frenemy” in my bunch. However, since moving to Orlando 8 years ago, the word “friend” has changed its meaning for me. I wish I could make friends the way I did when I was a kid. Kids are honest about how they feel. If they don’t like you, they tell you. No guessing required. While it may hurt your feelings you know where they stand and can move on. It’s bewildering when I befriend someone new, and shortly afterwards realize their meaning of friendship and my meaning of friendship is completely different.
Personally, for me to consider you a “friend, it takes a bit more than “Friend-ing” me on Facebook. Recently I blogged about social networking and how your social network only presented opportunities for friendships. Some may disagree, but there are people I “Friend-ed” on Facebook over a year ago and have never heard from them again. I have to ask myself , “is it all about the numbers?” There are times when I attend social events and all I hear about are the number of friends someone has on Facebook and their goal to get more. When I receive a Friend Request I think of it as an invitation for a possible friendship. There are “Friends” I have met only via social networking, and we have shared, liked, and commented each other’s statuses for months– I would venture to say we have a friendship. Not the kind where you could read each other’s minds with only a look, but a friendship none the less.
How do you know when you’ve made a new friend?
Carmen M. Perez, Travel Counselor
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