Have you found that making friends isn’t as easy as it was when you were 10? Friendships, along with our lives, are less stable and it can feel strange trying to make new ones.
Here are 5 steps to making creating new friendships and nurturing the friendships you value:
1. Get a grip. Go through your list of friends and take a mental picture of how you feel about each friend. Do you have too few, too many? Are there any that take up too much of your free time with their daily dramas? Are there any friends you consider a “frenemy?” While there is no need to break up with a friend, try to see a bit less of them to make room in your schedule for friends you want to spend more time with.
2. What’s fun for you? We all like to socialize in different ways. Some friends will like to go drinking on Friday night or going to the movies. If that’s not fun for you, suggest different plans. Try to find an exercise partner, take a hobby class, or join a book club. Check out websites like Friendster.com and MeetUp.com to find people with similar interests.
3. Keep in Touch. Make the effort to keep in touch with a new and old friends alike. Use Facebook, Twitter, or other social media to keep in touch. Send a note when something makes you think of them.
4. Show up. Nothing is better than seeing someone in person. Make time in your schedule to visit with a friend at least once a month for dinner, lunch, or a visit to the local farmers’ market. Make it stress free and fun.
5. Give em’ a break. Try not to take everything your friends do personally. Don’t get upset if a friend is late, cancels plans at the last-minute, or forgets about something important to you. Perhaps your friend is just overwhelmed.
Strong social ties are a part of the happiness picture. You need close relationships. Studies show that if you have five or more friends with whom you can discuss an important matter you’re far more likely to describe yourself a “very happy.” Not only does having strong relationships make it fare more likely that you take joy in life, buy it also lengthens life. Just like travel, friendships boosts immunity and cuts the risk of depression.
Because I got by with a little help from my girlfriends, I want to help you get a little help from your girlfriends. I hope that by sharing my experiences you find strength, hope, and solutions when you make your commitment to live beyond your illness. As always, please feel free to share your thoughts and experiences.
Carmen M. Perez, Travel Counselor
Your Florida Travel Expert and Girlfriends’ Getaway Specialist
You dream it, I plan it, you deserve it.
Call me now to get pampered, play around, or just bounce back with your girlfriends, and without all the drama.
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